Roommates don’t have time for each other; soulmates use simple, everyday moments to stay connected. One “little fox” in marriage is
busyness. It takes a lot to manage our marriage and family. Schedules and demanding responsibilities leave little time for each other. Busyness hijacks connection and ushers in disengagement. Couples will learn how to respond to “bids for connection” and use “connection rituals.”
Roommates are bored and their passion has been replaced by predictable routine; soulmates closely pursue each other in exciting ways. Our love story, like yours, started with passion and excitement as we got to know each other, laughed at new jokes and stories, displayed affection, experienced new adventures, tried new things, and grew closer together. However, once we were married for a few years, many of the fun, romantic and crazy things we did while dating all but disappeared. Like you, daily life consumed us, and we got busy with work, raising kids, hobbies and other pursuits. Couples will learn about cherish and nourish lists and what it means to rediscover your spouse.
Roommates are exhausted and have nothing to give; soulmates give regularly out of an abundantly full heart. We live in a fast-paced, busy
culture. We have full plates overflowing with good things: Jobs, children, kid activities, household responsibilities, hobbies, church, extended family, and friends. Overloaded schedules lead to hectic interactions that lead to exhausted people who are empty. In the end, our spouse and children get relational leftovers, and relationships can’t survive long on table scraps. Godly self-care is the God-given responsibility to care for yourself so you can love others from a place of fullness and abundance. Couples will learn about how to identify what brings them rest and what brings them life.
Roommates have no long-term plans; soulmates pursue shared dreams together. What you and your spouse can do together is far greater than
what you can do on your own. Your combined abilities, experience, gifting, talents and passions create an incredible God-blessed synergy—
the two become one. God unites couples to do together what they could never do alone! Thus, we need to develop a shared vision that we
are passionate about pursuing together. Pursuing a shared vision together requires you to understand what both individuals feel God
calling them to do and what God is calling you as a couple to do together to bless others—the wife, the husband, and the marriage
relationship all need to matter. Couples will learn about tools to begin dreaming together and will ask the questions, “What is God calling ’YOU; to do?” and “What is God calling ’US’ to do together?”
Marriage Pastors at Victory Church, Atlanta Georgia
Matt and Angel have been married since 1999 and have three courageous sons, Judah, Micah, and Eli. They have worked in ministry since they were married. Today, they are marriage pastors at Victory Church in Atlanta, Georgia — a multicultural church with 17,000 attendees from 140 nations. In the past decade, they’ve have worked with hundreds of couples and trained hundreds of volunteers to prepare, strengthen, and restore marriage. The Rigsby's passion for marriage stems from personal experience. They grew up in broken homes and faced challenges early in their relationship. They long to see married couples experience greater connection and oneness through faith in Jesus Christ.